Couldn't find a video, if a reader knows of one and wants to recommend one, great.

Good evening, I spent a couple hours yesterday trying to find a video that covers; how to tell if you can trust someone after experiencing trauma. I couldn't find one because I want to focus on surviving the victimization of trauma and there wasn't one video I could use that was generic in nature. Most of the videos I found had to do with building trust after infidelity or some type of lying in a relationship.Yes, it is important to learn how to trust again after these types of violations. I certainly don't want to discourage people from participating in this blog that have experienced these things. Unfortunately this type of violation is very common and I find that very sad. I believe that everyone who has suffered any type of trauma should have the opportunity to be a part of this blog.

In my life I have suffered multiple traumas and will share this throughout my blogging with the reader. I want readers who have survived multiple traumas to be active participants in this blog as well. The most important thing I want to convey is that life gets better.

I have done research into my "big" trauma and found several blogs on it. I was surprised because it is very uncommon and not talked about often, guess what? The one's I have found are so focused on this type of trauma alone that it takes the reader in such a sad place in almost all of the posts. I wouldn't want to be spending my time reading blogs that are nothing but sadness all of the time. I also wouldn't want to spend my time blogging about nothing but sadness. Have I experienced sadness in my life? yes. Will I share this with the reader sometimes? yes. But, I will not solely focus on the sadness that has to do with my trauma(s). I have had more happiness in my life at this point then sadness. I have overcome so much in  my life that I want to be an inspiration. I want to help people see that life does go on and can be beautiful. There are many times when we go through traumas and violations that we don't feel like we can go on or don't feel that we want to go on. I have experienced both but with the grace of God, good people in my life and my willingness to do the hard work to change my life, I have been able to go forward in my life.

I have had therapists and other mental health workers tell me that statistically I should have been dead by the time of my mid 20's. They also told me that I should have become addicted to drugs or alcohol or become a prostitute, because unfortunately this is what happens to many people both men and women who experience multiple traumas.

I was in the middle of divorcing my children's father when I remembered my "big" trauma. My lawyer, my children's lawyer, my advocate, therapist and specialist were all made aware of this and kept this out of my divorce. Had it be brought into my divorce it is possible I would have lost custody of my children.The divorce was in 1992. I started college in 1993 and graduated in 1998 with my bachelor's degree is social work. In 2003 I started graduate school and got my master's degree in health science in  2005. My specialty is in gerontology I hold a professional position and enjoy my work. This is something I am extremely proud of. I am the first on my 6 siblings to get a college education.

Both myself and my sister wanted to go to college and were discouraged by Ruth. Education wasn't something that was important to her. Education is what has led me in the direction to live a redemptive life.I gained my voice by going to college. When I got divorced it was practically impossible to raise my children at a minimum wage job. Once I finished my bachelor's degree it was a lot easier. I had planned to go forward and get my PhD. After I graduated with my master's my children separately sat me down and told me no my school. They told me that I had spent the majority of their lives in college and that if I wanted to take any more classes to take something fun like cooking or making jewelry. I just don't have it in me to get my PhD at this point. But who knows I have learned to never say never.

Tomorrow I will focus on trauma. Have a great evening, Rosie