Studies show that most molesters of children do very similar things. They insinuate themselves into environments where they work with children and then carefully select those children they wish to victimize
There is no look of a molester. Molesters wear no external warning signs. Molesters count on skepticism to create a smokescreen that will protect them from being caught and charged for their crimes.
As the Sandusky trial was happening I went through the transcripts each day and listed all of the grooming techniques that Sandusky used. He used the same type of grooming techniques to all of his victims and their families. We need to learn how pedophiles, hebophiles, and ebophiles groom. There have been articles I have blogged on where it was obvious that the child sexual predator had groomed the child, family and community. This is what Sandusky did well. He groomed himself and his non-profit so deep into the community that even when their were warning signs they were ignored, including by his wife. And because of how well Sandusky groomed even after victims told their truths on the stand, people still didn't believe that Sandusky did it. This has happened in schools as well. I have posted articles and blogged on several teachers who abused students. Almost all of the articles discussed how their were warning signs. Some even brought their concerns to the attention of the school system and were still ignored. Why? Because no one wanted to believe that the well liked teacher would do any thing that they were being accused of.One molester can and often does molest many children. Some research estimates indicate that a single molester of children can abuse as many as 50 or more children over the course of years that he or she molests
What happens when warning signs are ignored or not believed? It enables the child sexual predator to feel that he/she won't get caught. The author of this article discusses this in the article. It also gives the child sexual predator more access to children to victimize. Which means that more children are being abused. This effects a child from coming forward and telling of their victimization. If a child sexual predator is well liked in the community, if they have groomed their way into the family it makes it harder for children to tell about their abuse. If the child sexual predator is helping the family in some way i.e. financially, helping with rides, etc. this can make the child feel bad because the family will be harmed if the child tells. Which helps the child not tell.
One of the big things I believe that helps to keep children from telling about their abuse is: that they are not taught that they can tell. They are not taught what grooming is. Or if an adult is wanting to spend a lot of time with them, buying them things, telling them to keep secrets that they need to tell. Since child sexual predators choose their victims well and pick on the most vulnerable of victims. The more children who are educated on grooming tactics will lead to a reduction in children being sexually abused. That should be the most important thing that we should focus on. Their is a difference if the child is being abused by an incestuous pedophile. I state this because while there is information out there on grooming there isn't near enough on educating children about being abused by their family member(s). As a society we like to think that children are sexually abused by strangers which isn't so. Only 7% of children who are sexually abused are abused by a total stranger. Almost half of children who are sexually abused are abused by an incestuous pedophile. I am glad to talk about my experience on incestuous pedophilia because it helps to educate people on this topic. Rosie
June 27, 2012, 11:03 pm 1
The trial is over. This sexual
molester of children has been found guilty and is in jail awaiting the
official life sentence he will shortly receive. The talk of a legal
appeal by his lawyers who have admitted to wanting off the case seems to
be just so much prattle. The shock, as some in the media have called
it, for the residents of Pleasant Valley, Pennsylvania is gone and they
are trying to prepare for the onslaught of civil lawsuits against the
University that are bound to come. Seeing him led away in handcuffs
helped some of the abused heal but as one mother of a victim said “There
are no winners.” There are, however some important lessons to be
gleaned from the trial especially for people beyond State College, Pa
and the United States.
It is important to make a
distinction between a pedophile and a molester. Pedophiles are people
who fantasize about sex with children. Pedophilia is considered a mental
disorder but not all pedophiles are molesters. Molesters act on their
fantasies and that is more than a disorder it is a crime. If pedophiles
can be diagnosed earlier in their lives and treated the rate of
molestation may decrease. In the transition from the disorder to the
crime there are predictable and discernible patterns some of which are
glaringly obvious in this case.
Jerry Sandusky was an assistant coach for the college football team but he opened a charity for young boys who were needy. He showered with the boys, took them on college football trips and slept with them in the same rooms. He took them into his home and down to his basement where he also abused them even while his wife was upstairs. Studies show that most molesters of children do very similar things. They insinuate themselves into environments where they work with children and then carefully select those children they wish to victimize. If a molester is married they are likely to have partners who are codependent and will excuse much if not all of the abusers aberrant behaviors. And as we have seen with Dottie Sandusky, Sandusky’s wife, codependent partners will be quick to make excuses to outsiders to protect themselves and the molester they live with.
Jerry Sandusky was an assistant coach for the college football team but he opened a charity for young boys who were needy. He showered with the boys, took them on college football trips and slept with them in the same rooms. He took them into his home and down to his basement where he also abused them even while his wife was upstairs. Studies show that most molesters of children do very similar things. They insinuate themselves into environments where they work with children and then carefully select those children they wish to victimize. If a molester is married they are likely to have partners who are codependent and will excuse much if not all of the abusers aberrant behaviors. And as we have seen with Dottie Sandusky, Sandusky’s wife, codependent partners will be quick to make excuses to outsiders to protect themselves and the molester they live with.
There is no look of a molester. Molesters wear
no external warning signs. Sandusky himself is a tall relatively
handsome individual who was described as friendly, outgoing and
generally helpful and respected. At the college where he worked he was
seen as a trusted coach. Neighbors and friends still find it hard to
believe that he molested despite the gripping and emotionally painful
testimony of his survivors. That disbelief is also a reinforcer for a
molester. Molesters count on skepticism to create a smokescreen that
will protect them from being caught and charged for their crimes.
One molester can and often does molest many
children. In this particular situation only a handful was willing to
take the stand to testify against Sandusky. It is very likely that
because of the access he had he abused and molested many more boys. Some
research estimates indicate that a single molester of children can
abuse as many as 50 or more children over the course of years that he or
she molests.
The most important message to be gleaned from
this case is the fact that abuse can and does happen everywhere.
Conservative estimates are that about a quarter of all women and at
least 15 percent of all men are sexually abused. There is no community
that is exempt from these attacks and some estimate that the percentages
of molestation may be even higher in those communities where the
approach is one of denial or cover up of the possibility that abuse is
occurring. That makes a great deal of intuitive sense. Denying abuse
only emboldens the molester whose modus operandi is to find children to
groom to be victims and then isolates them with threats to maintain
their silence.
Silence, avoidance and cover up only reinforce
an abusers belief that he or she will never be caught. For this reason
it is imperative to report any reasonable suspicion of abuse to the
proper authorities. In Sandusky’s case early reports were covered up or
ignored which only indicates that if you have any reasonable cause to
suspect abuse you report it, more than once if necessary. Research shows
that the rate of confirmed cases of abuse may be declining. The only
possible reason is that more people are reporting and more molesters are
being prosecuted.
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