There are generally people in positions of power over children. They are usually well liked and active members in their community. They purposely put themselves in a position to have access to children. They also tend to be more comfortable being around children then adults. They are also very good predators:The vast majority of offenders are adults known to a child -- a parent, relative, neighbor, teacher, coach, priest, physician -- someone in a position of power and trust who abuses both.
It is disgusting in my opinion how these child predators are able to know the children who will be able to be sexually abused. Preying on these children's vulnerabilities is monstrous. That is why we have to safeguard children. Parent's are preyed on as well. Child sexual predators have to groom all of those around a child. This means that they will go out of their way to convince people how nice, generous, kind, well-meaning,and helpful they are. They may offer to help provide rides to and from sporting games, school activities, etc. They tend to prey on single parent households which means they will study the family system and find weaknesses and prey on them. For instance if a family is struggling they might purchase food, or cook a meal or offer gas money. While this comes off as generous and kind the real reason they are doing what they are is diabolical and devious. And in my opinion PURE EVIL.Parents also need to know that susceptible children tend to be those who are compliant and obedient. They may come from unhappy or broken homes and may be eager for attention and affection.
I am learning that educating on child sexual predators grooming techniques is one of the main ways to help protect children. This does require time and commitment from families, but I think in the long run it is imperative to be done. Rosie
Tell toddlers what's private about their bodies
updated 9:41 AM EDT, Wed June 20, 2012
Editor's note: Cindy W. Cristian, M.D. is the chairwoman of Child Abuse and Neglect Prevention at The Children's Hospital of Philadelphia and a professor of pediatrics at the Perelman School of Medicine at The University of Pennsylvania
(CNN) -- Little of the reported testimony from the Jerry Sandusky trial surprises me. I have heard these stories thousands of times over the past 25 years.
As a child abuse
pediatrician, I know how predators lure susceptible children with
special gifts or outings, how they coerce and manipulate their victims
to comply with their advances, how they ensure secrecy with bribery or
threats. I've met thousands of parents whose children were victims of
sexual abuse over these years, many of whom were unaware of the crimes
being committed against their children, and most of whom were devastated
by the knowledge of the abuse.
I've learned lessons along the way, and want to share some weapons that parents can use in the fight against sexual abuse.
Cindy Cristian
The first is knowledge.
Not the knowledge that child sexual abuse exists -- most parents
understand that -- but that child maltreatment is a public health
problem that affects millions of children annually, and can have
lifelong health consequences for victims.
The predators parents
have to fear are not nameless stalkers on the Internet, but the friends
and relatives who live at home or in the neighborhood. The vast majority
of offenders are adults known to a child -- a parent, relative,
neighbor, teacher, coach, priest, physician -- someone in a position of
power and trust who abuses both. The abuse may or may not involve
contact with the child's genitals, and may escalate over months or
years.
Parents also need to know
that susceptible children tend to be those who are compliant and
obedient. They may come from unhappy or broken homes and may be eager
for attention and affection. Sexually abused children may not display
outward behaviors that are worrisome to families, and if they do, their
behaviors are nonspecific. They may appear withdrawn or depressed, or
angry or irritable. Their school performance may suddenly and
unexpectedly deteriorate, or they may become early adopters of drugs,
alcohol or sex.
Parents need to know that
most child sexual abuse is discovered because a child finally discloses
his or her abuse to someone, which underscores the importance of
communication, and brings me to talking about sex with young children.
Educating children about
privacy, safety and sex starts in early childhood, and is a process,
not a talk. So while you are busy teaching your toddlers their body
parts, don't forget to name the genitals. Providing a name for them
teaches children that their genitals, while private, are not so private
that you can't talk about them.
Parents of young
children should also teach them about the privacy of body parts, and
that no one has the right to touch their bodies if they don't want that
to happen. Children should also learn to respect the privacy rights of
others. Parents should teach children early and often that there are no
secrets between parents and children.
Children need to feel
safe sharing all information, good or bad, sad or funny, easy or
difficult. As children age, create an environment that allows for open
discussion and welcomes questions. Use news items, like the Sandusky
trial, to start discussions of safety and to reiterate the message that
children should always tell a trusted adult if someone is taking
advantage of them sexually.
If a child discloses
abuse, listen carefully, support his or her decision to share. Let
children know that the abuse was not their fault, and seek help. That
help can come from a call to law enforcement, the local child welfare
agency or a child's physician. Know that the discovery of sexual abuse
will be a family crisis, and that all affected family members will
benefit from counseling and support. Remember that as parents, our best
weapons against pedophiles and sexual predators are knowledge and
communication. So don't think twice about that sex talk with your
toddler.
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The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Cindy W. Cristian.
http://www.cnn.com/2012/06/20/opinion/cristian-sandusky-sexual-abuse/index.html
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